Friends have come and gone as well as women. Those few faithful friends simply accept that I will not change that which defines me for anyone else other than myself. Women on the other hand have tried diligently to change me into what they thought was a better me. They didn't like me riding motorcycles and tried to prohibit it. That was funny because the bikes came long before the bitches and were always more faithful so I stuck with the bikes. These silly girls didn't like me being me and having friends of every gender and tried to stop me from being friends with them, again these women failed. There has been one that has never asked me to change anything at all about myself. In fact the great part of this relationship is that neither of us has asked the other to change. We have allowed the other person to be exactly whatever they wanted to be. If riding a wheelie for miles down the road was my definition of fun then that is what I did with no flack from her and if purchasing an ungodly amount of shoes simply to have a different flavor everyday was her definition of a successful woman then she was allowed to do it with no lip out of me. Neither of us has had to change our definition if you will. Derrick is still defined as random, loud, obnoxious, rambunctious, and wide open among several others that you can all add at your leisure. There is however something very interesting that I have noticed. She never once asked me to change my definition but she did ask me to extend it. She never removed or asked me to remove anything from my definition but only asked me to add to it, an addendum if you will. She introduced me to beer, snowboarding, snow cream, a few simply joys of country living, and a few escapades under the sheets that for me have an addiction quality one would liken to crack-cocaine. Now none of these, along with many others, were ever in my original definition of myself but have certainly been included in the addendum. The absolutely glorious thing about it all is that she didn't just ask anything of me that she didn't require of herself when it came to the definition addendum. She too added an addendum with things like ranch, rare steaks, motorcycle stunting, a love for NYC, and Chambord chicken. So both definitions remain and both addendums lengthen. Tomorrow we will fly out together to Denver and one week from the day we fly out I will ask her to lengthen her addendum.

Take it easy,

Derrick Lee Myers